Stop and Think

Your dress is not indicative of the person you are, nor does it give full insight into your beliefs. In fact no one thing can tell the whole story of one person. 

I’ve been feeling this sentiment lately because of some people in my life, and their complaints, or ridicule of their/other people’s clothing. It’s just been bothering me so much I feel anxious, so I made a little list:

Nudists are not swingers.

Swingers are good people

Hoodie does not equal violent

Short skirts don’t mean slut

Business suits do not mean good people.

Man does not mean pervert

Woman does not mean nota pervert

Rich does not equal nice

Blue Collar does not mean stupid

White collar does not mean smart

However, I would gather that most people would believe the opposites of these things. I can’t count how many times I’ve seen an attractive girl with a short skirt walk into a bar or club and the girls I’m with call her a slut. Nor can I count the times people have avoided me/followed me in their stores because I’m black and in a hoody. It happens and I hate it.

I’m just fed up with the level of nonsense we put each other through because of appearances. If we just let people be, I swear the world would be a better place. It sounds really cliche, but I mean it. And I don’t mean we need to agree on all points, and feel free to call people out on their crap. What I mean is that everyone should be allowed to freely express themselves, and to accept that they have different areas of their lives. Just because someone likes rap does not mean you need to be surprised that they love Aristotle. Just because you’re a woman does not mean you have to act dumb to impress some guy, or fit in with some girls. Be you, and be happy.

What if we stopped an examined why we believe things and act the way we do in situations? When’s the last time you realized that guy behind you made you nervous, or you felt that guy at bar was dumb because he did construction and you were a VP at some PR firm? What in the world gives you the right to be so arrogant and close minded? You grew up in a world with more possibilities than ever, and where you can see the negative impact those thoughts have. Yea they like orgies. They also are a loving couple, care about their kids, take care of their parents, and work their ass off at work. What they do in the bedroom, with or without other people has nothing to do with the other areas of their lives.

I’m not a saint and I do it too. I’m just saying next time you have an asshole thought like that, stop and think as to why you think that. You’ll be surprised at much you’ll catch yourself from making unnecessary judgements.